"I Need Your Help": Our Custodian Theo's Last Request From Me
[caption id="attachment_1896" align="alignright" width="211"] Selling Theo Chametz[/caption] For more than a decade, Theo Henry was more than simply our custodian at Boca Raton Synagogue. He was truly a part of our family. Literally thousands of minyanim, programs, events, and classes could not have happened without his hard work and dedication. Theo was a permanent presence in our Shul: setting up, cleaning up, turning over rooms, and most importantly, flashing his big smile when you walked by and said hello. On Tuesday, we learned that we will tragically never see that smile again. At only 29 years old, Theo was taken from us suddenly. The outpouring of reactions from so many of our devastated members is the greatest testament to the role that he played and the special place he had in our community. On the one hand, Theo had the job description of a typical custodian. He, along with our amazing other custodian Junior, was responsible for the cleanliness and maintenance of our campus, and for ensuring that everything from classes to kiddushes to simchas were set up properly and cleaned up from appropriately. Theo had a great work ethic and took pride in his job. He did it so well that one space could be used for four or five different purposes in one day requiring multiple breakdowns and set-ups and the attendees of each program had no clue what else happened in that space that same day. When you came back for Mincha on Simchas Torah afternoon, you had no idea 2,000 people were singing, dancing and eating all over the campus just a few hours before. When you came to shul Shemini Atzeres night, there was not one leaf left from the thousands of hoshanas that were beaten on the floor that morning. When you arrived to burn your chametz, you didn’t realize that Theo was there at 5 o’clock that morning to get the fire started and burning properly. Each year at the Shul dinner I would publicly thank Theo and the other staff. Theo was never there to hear it; he would walk out because he didn’t want the attention or praise. Theo was quiet by nature, an introvert who was more comfortable with earphones in his ears and a vacuum in his hand than a conversation or small talk. He made himself invisible, blending into the background by seeing to it that our campus functioned so seamlessly you barely noticed him. But our beloved Theo was so much more than a custodian and his contributions extend far beyond his professional responsibilities. Theo was selflessly devoted to our community and its members and with no recognition or fanfare, went above and beyond in ways that nobody knew about. Let me tell you about a few, with a disclaimer that this represents only a small sampling:
- Theo was BRS’s custodian, not chauffeur, and yet countless times he inconvenienced himself to drive people on Shabbos. When a sick person needed to get to the doctor or medicine needed to be picked up from a pharmacy, Theo drove. When numerous women had fertility treatments that required them to discreetly make their way to the lab or clinic for a treatment, Theo took them.
- When someone’s air conditioning broke on a Shabbos in the heat of the Boca summer, though Theo had no training, expertise or requirement, he was there trying to fix it. When an older member asked him to push his wheelchair to Shul in 90-degree heat and heavy humidity, he didn’t hesitate.
- When our esteemed member Rabbi Gene Klein z”l passed away and his funeral was on Christmas, though Theo was off, he came to work that day. When asked why, he said, “I knew Rabbi Klein, and I don’t have family down here, so this is where I need to be.”
- After any event that had leftover food, Theo would call someone from the community he knew could use some help to come and take when nobody was around, so he could preserve his dignity.
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